One Universe. Twelve Planets. One Earth. Hundreds of countries. Thousands of cities. Billions of people. To find the person, who will truly love you; whom you will love is a dream come true. It’s an answered prayer. But how if you met him but in a very complicated situation? How if he is thousands of miles away? Will you survive it? Will you survive a LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP?
Is it easy? NO! Never, it is. Is it worth it? TOTALLY!
Long distance relationship. We have to admit it, it`s not easy. When you get into this kind of relationship, you must be MENTALLY prepared. You have to set in your mind how the situation will be. You must also win over temptations. There are times you will be tempted to cheat, to lie, so you must have the capability to control.Emotionally as well, it`s hard. You must not let your emotion take over you. Control. Control. Control. Readiness in physical terms. In LDR, sometimes, you have to sacrifice some things just to make time for your sweetheart. This usually happens to those couples who fell into different timezones. Missing the friends get-together so you would just stay home and talk to your partner. Sacrifice even the sleeping time. It’s really a long list of compilation. And because of the distance, you must know how to understand the situation, you can`t have the sweet bonding moments that lovers usually do. No chances to date. No chances to walk in the park while watching the sunset. No chances to eat together. No chances to watch movies together. No chances to go to beaches together. No kisses. No hugs. Nothing… Nothing but WORDS! But these words, especially when sincere, mean more than to those stuffs. Chat. Chat. Chat. Text messages, especially when unexpected mean a lot. Communication. This is the bridge that connects the two of you. They can make your day complete by doing so. So make it a habit, “One SMS a day, makes the sadness go away”.
One of the important ingredients of a LDR, PATIENCE. Patience in many ways. To wait for him to online, to be home from work or from school so you can talk. Even though you are his lover, it doesn’t mean his life is all for you, sometimes, you must be understanding that he needs to study, to spend time with his family and friends.
Support him and let him know you trust him. And lastly, be patient to wait for you to meet and be together in the future. Remember, great things come to those who wait. Without patience, LDR is in danger. We have no escape from longing to be with them, just be patiently waiting, and in the end, you will be glad you did.
FUTURE... Plan for your future. If you really love him, you must make him feel that you want to spend the rest of your life with him and that you want to grow old together. Set future plans. Talk about family. But when you promise something, make sure you’ll keep it forever.
Long distance relationship is like a letter W. It goes down, up, down but in the end, it goes up. It’s not easy, but if you are heart to heart, if it’s true love, no doubt, it will work. :) Set your goals. Give time and effort. Show love and care. Risk and fight for your love, even though there are people who are against the two of you, be brave to when everything is rough and tough. Stand up if you fall. And lastly, make God the center of your relationship. All these combined, you will have a long distance relationship that works. All the best to all of you.
“Distance never separates two hearts that are loyal to one another. Long distance is just a test how far love can travel.”
Long distance relationship is the hardest yet the most fulfilling type of relationship.
© Rachanee Francisco